December 13, 2012

"When you get divorced, all the truths that come out, you sit there and you go, 'What the f*** was I doing?'"

"'What was I doing believing that this person was invested in this way?' Which is a fantastically strong humiliation in the best sense..."

Says Sean Penn, who doesn't "feel that I have ever been loved."

47 comments:

Rose said...

I don't care about Sean Penn. He loves Chavez. That's all you need to know about him.

Actors and actresses in general are flawed individuals, and yet their opinions are given reverence - it is not a good thing for our society, the Entertainment Tonight-ization of the electorate, the dumbing down, and the shallowness that comes with it.

Even Barabara Walters, who could once have been considered as a serious person, has been reduced to the shallow bitch role.

edutcher said...

Well, that last statement probably has a lot of truth to it.

Renee said...

Painful, but true if love wasn't in the marriage to begin with.

Penn's work in Haiti is amazing though, he walks the walk.

Larry J said...

I don't know if Sean Penn has ever been loved, but I know for a fact that he has been hated. Quite a bit.

rhhardin said...

If it weren't for misunderstanding, we would never agree on anything.

Vince said...

He never struck me as the lovable type.

Seeing Red said...

Since I've never been loved, I get love by spending OPM, noblesse oblige. So the "little people" can love me from a distance.

Was Madonna available for comment?

Didn't he tie her up and beat her when they were married?

furious_a said...

'As I look back over my life in romance, I don't feel that I have ever been loved'

Penn certainly loves himself.

Paddy O said...

We have a way of interpreting the past through the lens of our present, even going so far as to think our present experience actually determines the past.

This is, I think, especially true in romance and sexuality. We protect our perceived vulnerability and brokenness by asserting what we now experience was always the true and deeper reality.

In effect, we throw our past selves under the bus, but the ego has to do what it has to do to protect the present self.

Ann Althouse said...

"As I look back over my life in romance, I don't feel that I have ever been loved."

You've got to give him credit for phrasing that in terms of his own feelings and his present perspective.

He doesn't assert what he doesn't know. He doesn't say Madonna/Robin Wright never loved him.

Ann Althouse said...

"Penn certainly loves himself."

Does he? Maybe he feels unlovable.

Icepick said...

Penn's work in Haiti is amazing though, he walks the walk.

That's because his stand-ins have worked with professional film crews to block everything out for him before hand. He just has to show up, hit his marks and make concern face on-camera.

Synova said...

And he never once thought.... "What was I doing to treat her that way?" And wonders if he has ever loved?

test said...

This might be an interesting topic, but not with such an idiot as the hook. Seriously, glorifying a man who set freedom in his country back 100 years? Spicoli's ability to think is so compromised how could we value any observation he might make?

mccullough said...

Boomer Narcissism.

jungatheart said...

Mystic River was a good movie.

Synova said...

Is it admirable that he expresses this in terms of his feelings? He feels that he's never been loved isn't claiming to know that his "loves" didn't love him? But that's what "this person wasn't invested that way" means, right? They weren't emotionally invested in him.

I would suppose that there are cases where the fault in a divorce is completely one sided... the other person was abusive or unfaithful. But in general terms, in relationships, who's innocent? Even in marriages that don't break up, who blames the other person for failing to love properly? Don't you ask yourself, have *I* been loving that person and making sure he feels loved?

madAsHell said...

Love is an un-sustainable chemical imbalance.

After all the squishiness wears off, then you realize that you can either accept the responsibility, or pay for a release.

Strelnikov said...

Well, I certainly don't love him.

Marie said...

'It can make somebody very bitter and very hard and closed off, but I find it does the opposite to me.'

Because he's just that special.

Seeing Red said...

It depends on how he defines love.

Plus he's marrying actresses.


They're not exactly known for depth.

Is his love adulation of him and how great he is?

Seeing Red said...

He needs to marry a red stater from a flyover state who will make him take out the garbage.

Automatic_Wing said...

Perhaps because he's a complete douchebag?

Lem the artificially intelligent said...

'There is no shame in saying that we all want to be loved by someone.

Citizen Penn wants to persuade people that he love them so much that they ought to love him back... only he wants love on his own terms... those are the only terms anybody ever knows... his own.

Lem the artificially intelligent said...

Little Penn Honer
Sat in a corner...

Sorun said...

He should get saved. Then he'll believe that Jesus loves him.

jacksonjay said...

Interesting to me that the schoolmarm wonders if Sean "really" does love Sean!

As a man, this is typical dawg self-pity, looking for a sympathetic female ear (heart)! Wow is me! Nobody loves Sean! I'm so pitiful! Come on ladies, don't fall for this bullshit!

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Sorun said...

He should get saved. Then he'll believe that Jesus loves him.

Actually, Jesus thinks he's a complete douchebag too.

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Paul said...

"feel that I have ever been loved."

Dickweed Penn? What is there to love? He sells himself to dictators and prostitutes his 'humitarian' services with photo ops.

Yes nobody loves a shyster.

Bayoneteer said...

An amazingly self-absorbed individual this Sean Penn.

traditionalguy said...

Sean is probably right that the real Sean has never been loved. But the fake Sean has demanded summission and love from every person he could use for his entire life...probaby hundreds of them that he has used and discarded when he was finished.

Sorry Sean. I feel no sympathy for your narcissistic supply demands.

Chef Mojo said...

The man has spent his entire professional life carefully cultivating the image of a complete and utter asshole, and he's mystified by the fact that he's unloved?

Give yourself a big face palm there, buddy.

Sam L. said...

He married Madonna. Shoulda wised up at that point.

ricpic said...

As a man, this is typical dawg self-pity, looking for a sympathetic female ear (heart)!

Nothing more embarrassing (to other men) than a man emoting. Nothing more fascinating to women.

bagoh20 said...

You never really know until you need that kidney from someone. If they offer, that's affection, but true love is expressed by the heart.

Humperdink said...

Well Chavez loves him, as does Castro (both). If he is looking for female love, there's always Cristina Fernández de Kirchner of Argentina. Seems like a good fit. Or Ted Turner's ex-spouse.

Scott M said...

Says Sean Penn, who doesn't "feel that I have ever been loved."

Is that common among socialists? It would explain a whole lot of things...

holdfast said...

Look him up in the Hollywood Dictionary under "Aging Poorly".

Howard said...

I'd whinge like a baby if I lost Jenny/The Princess Bride. Success has it's price.

Unlike Ms. Hathaway, Penn voluntarily shows the world his cooter.

SunnyJ said...

Where to start?

Seanie needs to drop the I if he wants to figure out marriage.

I'd say this is consistent in his political choices...poor critical thinking skills and poorer still judgement.

The world is just not measuring up...wtf? How can it be? They are all failing me...I'm looking at you and wondering why its not a mirror image.

Bottom line: Narcisstic pain in the ass syndrome.

glenn said...

Actually the I I I Me Me Me stuff is very revealing. Nobody worth being in a loving long term relationship with is going to put up with the likes of Sean Penn for more than 5 minutes. He's a prick.

glenn said...

As are most of the folks his age.

NoraCharles said...

It's impossible to know what goes on between 2 people behind closed doors but I really don't think Robin Wright was the problem in that marriage.

JAL said...

Wonder how well he studied and worked at loving the woman he married.

No, not really. It's a 3D who-cares. But as long as it's about him ....

damikesc said...

So, self-absorbed narcissist finds marriage challenging. Stunning.